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Skills for Independent Living to Teach Your Kids

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When you first look into the eyes of your tiny baby, it is pretty hard to believe that sooner than you would expect your Little One will grow into an independent adult 😊

But in the long run, this is definitely all parents are striving for: teaching them all the necessary independent living skills to ensure a happy and prospering adult life 😊

What are Independent Living Skills?

There are various life skills or independent living skills that kids should learn while growing up. Well, in most cases I would not say “learn” like a sort of curriculum, but as parents, we can definitely help them to master these skills while they are at a young age – so they can thank us later πŸ˜‰Β 

So what are the independent living skills?

  1. Self-Care Skills: Self-care skills encompass activities that individuals perform to maintain personal hygiene, health, and well-being. This includes tasks such as bathing, grooming, dressing, brushing teeth, and maintaining cleanliness. Self-care skills also extend to managing one’s emotions and practicing self-awareness, such as recognizing when rest or relaxation is needed.
  2. Social Skills: Social skills are the abilities that enable individuals to interact effectively and harmoniously with others in various social situations. These skills include aspects such as making and maintaining friendships, understanding social cues and norms, listening actively, showing empathy, cooperating with others, resolving conflicts, and demonstrating appropriate manners and etiquette.
  3. Communication Skills: Communication skills encompass both verbal and non-verbal abilities that enable individuals to convey their thoughts, ideas, feelings, and needs effectively to others. Verbal communication involves speaking clearly, listening attentively, and expressing oneself fluently. Non-verbal communication includes body language, facial expressions, gestures, and eye contact, which are essential for conveying emotions and understanding others’ messages.
  4. Time Management Skills: Time management skills involve the ability to effectively allocate and prioritize time to accomplish tasks and goals efficiently. This includes setting goals, planning and organizing activities, creating schedules or timelines, avoiding procrastination, breaking tasks into manageable steps, and balancing responsibilities and leisure activities.
  5. Money and Budgeting Skills: Money and budgeting skills refer to the ability to manage finances wisely and responsibly. This includes skills such as budgeting income and expenses, tracking spending, saving money for future needs or goals, making informed financial decisions, understanding basic economic concepts, and avoiding debt or overspending.
  6. Daily Living Skills: Daily living skills, also known as activities of daily living (ADLs), are the essential tasks required for independent functioning in everyday life. These skills encompass a wide range of activities necessary for self-sufficiency, including meal preparation and cooking, grocery shopping, managing household chores, using transportation, maintaining personal hygiene, and managing medications or healthcare needs.

Why is it Important to Teach Life Skills to Our Kids?

Actually, I did not realize until lately how cool is that my Daughter has already mastered some pretty useful life skills! Last weekend, she made our breakfast all alone 😊 Well, I was freaking out as she was making tea as well, but we practiced it a lot together previously, and this time she managed to do it all alone without breaking a cup or burning herself πŸ˜…

It made her so proud and happy! And I am also glad that with these baby steps, she learns how to take care of herself.

So why is it important to teach independent living skills to our kids? Besides getting tea in bed on a lazy Sunday πŸ˜‰

Check out some more reasons:

  1. Preparation for adulthood: Life skills are essential for navigating the challenges and responsibilities of adulthood. By teaching these skills early on, children are better equipped to handle various situations as they grow older.
  2. Promotes independence: Life skills empower children to become more independent and self-sufficient. They learn how to take care of themselves, manage their time and resources, and make informed decisions.
  3. Enhances problem-solving abilities: Life skills such as critical thinking, decision-making, and problem-solving are crucial for tackling challenges effectively. Teaching these skills encourages children to think analytically and find solutions to problems they encounter.
  4. Improves social interactions: Many life skills involve communication, empathy, and interpersonal relationships. By teaching kids how to communicate effectively, resolve conflicts, and understand others’ perspectives, they develop stronger social skills and build healthier relationships with peers and adults.
  5. Fosters resilience:Β Life skills education helps children develop resilience and adaptability in the face of setbacks and failures. They learn how to bounce back from disappointments, cope with stress, and persevere in pursuit of their goals.
  6. Promotes financial literacy: Understanding financial concepts and developing money management skills are critical for financial independence and success in adulthood. Teaching kids about budgeting, saving, and responsible spending prepares them to make informed financial decisions later in life.
  7. Encourages healthy habits: Life skills education encompasses topics such as nutrition, exercise, and personal hygiene. By instilling healthy habits early on, children are more likely to prioritize their physical and mental well-being throughout their lives.

So teaching life skills to our kids equips them with the knowledge, abilities, and attitudes necessary to lead fulfilling and productive lives, both now and in the future!

Special Benefits of Teaching Life Skills to Individuals with Autism

While teaching independent living skills is equally important for all kids, it can be more challenging to learn these for those with autism. However, according to some discussions with parents of special kids as well as doing some research on the topic, it is important to highlight that there are some special benefits of teaching life skills to children with autism!

Teaching life skills to individuals with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) holds several special benefits in preparing them for adult life and promoting independence in daily tasks. These kids or young adults often require tailored support to develop essential life skills necessary for navigating everyday life.

One crucial aspect is assisting them in mastering self-help skills, such as personal care and household chores, enabling them to manage their daily routines more independently. Additionally, teaching functional skills like using public transportation and managing money, including opening a bank account and understanding credit cards, equips them for greater autonomy in adulthood.

Visual supports, such as visual schedules and cues, are great tools for individuals with autism, aiding in task completion and understanding social cues.

Once I was contacted by a Mom of a teenage boy having trouble in school due to his condition with autism, and desperately in need of a special routine chart to be able to follow his daily schedule. After some common brainstorming, I managed to put together this visual aid in a way that made their life a lot easier, I was so glad to be able to help them! πŸ˜Š

Applied behavior analysis (ABA) techniques, including task analysis and positive reinforcement, are effective in breaking down complex tasks into smaller steps.

Early intervention and explicit instruction from occupational therapists and other professionals help address the unique needs of autistic individuals, fostering their development of adaptive behaviors and executive functioning skills. Moreover, incorporating assistive technology can further enhance their ability to participate in everyday activities and achieve their full potential.

Transition periods, such as from school to adulthood, are critical times, requiring extra support to ensure a smooth transition into independent living. Life skills training during this time is essential for building vocational skills and meaningful relationships, as well as promoting positive family relationships.

By teaching life skills tailored to their individual needs from a young age, autistic individuals can gradually build the necessary support and independence to lead fulfilling and independent lives in their natural environments. This approach not only enhances their quality of life but also fosters their integration into society, allowing them to contribute meaningfully and reach their ultimate goals.

How to Teach Life Skills at Home?

  1. Identify Relevant Skills: Start by identifying the specific life skills that are relevant and age-appropriate for the individual(s) you’re teaching. Consider their developmental level, interests, and areas where they may need extra support.
  2. Set Clear Goals: Establish clear goals and objectives for teaching each life skill. Break down complex tasks into smaller, manageable steps to make learning more achievable.
  3. Create a Structured Environment: Learning naturally during the daily routine is a great way. But you can also designate specific times and spaces for teaching and practicing life skills. A structured environment helps create routine and consistency, which are essential for learning and reinforcement.
  4. Use Visual Supports: Utilize visual aids, such as visual schedules, cue cards, or step-by-step instructions, to support learning and provide guidance during activities. Visual supports are particularly helpful for individuals with autism or other learning differences.
  5. Model and Demonstrate: Model the desired behaviors and demonstrate how to perform each life skill effectively. Break down tasks into simple actions and provide clear, verbal instructions as you demonstrate each step.
  6. Provide Hands-On Practice: Encourage hands-on practice and active participation in learning activities. Offer opportunities for the kids to try out the skills themselves with your guidance and support.
  7. Offer Positive Reinforcement: Provide praise, encouragement, and positive reinforcement to reinforce successful attempts and progress. Celebrate achievements, no matter how small, to boost confidence and motivation.
  8. Promote Independence: Gradually fade your support and encourage independence as the kids become more proficient in the life skills they’re learning. Allow them to take on more responsibility and make decisions autonomously.
  9. Make Learning Fun and Meaningful: Incorporate fun and engaging activities into the teaching process to keep your Little Ones motivated and interested. Consider their interests and preferences when planning activities related to different life skills.
  10. Encourage Generalization: Encourage the application of life skills across different settings and situations to promote generalization. Help the individual(s) understand how they can use the skills they’ve learned in real-life contexts beyond the home environment.

10 Everyday Activities to Build Your Child’s Independence

What about an easy way (well actually 10 😁) to teach kids important life skills?

You can use everyday activities – with a bit more focus on the learning aspect – and build a daily routine that “invisibly” lets your kids learn a lot and become more independent!

  1. Getting Dressed: Encourage your child to pick out their own clothes and dress themselves. Start with simple items like shirts and socks, then gradually introduce more complex pieces like pants and shoes.
  2. Meal Preparation: Involve your child in meal preparation tasks such as washing vegetables, stirring ingredients, or setting the table. As they become more confident, they can help with more advanced tasks like chopping vegetables (under supervision) or following simple recipes.
  3. Making the Bed: Teach your child how to make their bed each morning. Start with basic tasks like pulling up the covers and arranging pillows, then gradually introduce more detailed steps as they become proficient.
  4. Doing Laundry: Show your child how to sort laundry by color and type, use the washing machine and dryer (if safe), and fold and put away clothes. They can start by helping with simple tasks like folding towels or matching socks.
  5. Cleaning Up Toys: Encourage your child to clean up their toys and belongings after playtime. Make it a fun activity by turning it into a game or setting a timer to see how quickly they can tidy up.
  6. Managing Personal Hygiene: Teach your child to brush their teeth, wash their hands, and bathe independently. Provide guidance and supervision as needed, but allow them to take the lead in performing these tasks.
  7. Completing Homework: Encourage your child to tackle their homework assignments on their own, with support and guidance as needed. Teach them strategies for staying organized and managing their time effectively.
  8. Running Errands: Take your child along when running errands and involve them in the process. Let them help make shopping lists, locate items in the store, and interact with cashiers or other service providers.
  9. Using Public Transportation: If applicable, teach your child how to use public transportation safely and independently. Practice navigating bus or subway routes together and teach them how to purchase tickets or passes.
  10. Managing Money: Introduce your child to basic money management skills such as counting coins and bills, making purchases, and saving money for desired items. Give them opportunities to handle money and make decisions about how to spend or save it.


Kids grow up a lot faster than we would expect… The life skills they pick up during their childhood can be really helpful to start and live an independent adult life, reaching their goals… and more importantly, living a happy life!

Teaching independent living skills can be hidden within the daily routine, providing fun and engaging ways for our Little Ones to learn these. In case you are facing a more difficult situation, trying to teach your kids with autism independent living skills, you should not be discouraged if the process is slower, but keep in mind that even small steps can make a real difference! Various support groups exist where parents of special kids can exchange their experiences and good practices to help each other!

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